As you may already know, I’m a teacher. And if you’re a teacher you also know that the end of the school year can be even more stressful than the beginning. As the last weekend of the school year approached, I felt like I needed a little getaway more than ever.
I mentioned to my boyfriend, Phillip, in passing that I wanted to spend the weekend on a lake. I really wanted to escape the city for some much needed downtime. I had originally wanted to do a little solo trip, but when Phillip offered to plan the weekend and take the stress out of it for me, how could I say no? (He’s way too good to me and I don’t deserve him!)
I can sit here and talk about stress or how I relieve it or how I could be doing more or less to destress, but I’m not going to do that in this post. Instead, I want to talk about how you need to cherish love and take the time to connect with your loved ones.
Love is a Verb
Turn off your cell phone.
Listen to your partner when he or she speaks.
Look him in the eye.
Embrace his kisses.
Love every inch of him.
Acknowledge all of the good things instead of complaining about and trying to change the more undesirable things.
Eat chocolate together. (This one is very important!)
It’s the Simple Things
I’m not an expert on love, but I know enough to know when someone really loves me.
Here are a few of the ways I feel love from my partner.
When he listens to me. When he plans a whole day around what I like.
When he knows what I need more than I, myself, might know.
When he doesn’t lose his patience with me even when I go from zero to 100 real quick.
Some of these things may seem so simple, but it’s the simple, everyday things that keep a relationship strong.
Fill your Cup
Relationships are hard work. I’ve been foolish to try to walk away when things aren’t easy. Phillip has taught me that when you love someone, you don’t just give up on them. You try harder. You love more. You do what it takes to nurture that love. And you try to be the best version of yourself for them. So if you’re feeling depleted, or like you have little to give, take some time for yourself. Do the things that fill you up. When your cup is full, you have more to give away.
Real love is out there, people. And sometimes you will find in at the most unexpected times and in the most unexpected places, but don’t give up on love and don’t give up on yourself.
Someone very wise once told me something that I don’t think will ever leave me. “God takes things away from you when you don’t appreciate them”. This may or may not be true, but it resonated with me. I don’t ever want to take advantage of love and the people that I love the most.
How do you show love and when do you feel most loved? Leave us a comment below.
Stay tuned for a Part 2 about how we spent our special weekend in Berkshires together.